Welcome to my first blog, a site dedicated to those of us with a finite life.

EOL2DIE4 is a forum to discuss issues relating to life, death and the at-least-once-encountered process of dying.  A characterless “cartoon” strip is used to frame End Of Life (EOL) experiences, issues and related topics.

The introductory strip is presented below. You can enlarge the strip by selecting it.

Under each strip, I’ll  include some thoughts of what went into the particular panel as a way of prompting discussion.  I attempt to use humor as much as possible because there is a high level of stress associated with living, let along dying, and humor helps reduce stress.

I intend to update this blog weekly by adding a new strip.  I will also try to provide links to articles relevant to the discussion as they become available.  I hope you will  join me in this social experience because as you know, EOL is coming soon for most of us, and sooner for others.

In case you were wondering, this blog is targeted to those under 50 with the foresight to visualize the future, and to those over 50 with the courage and passion to enjoy it.

Larry Paoletti
March 16, 2011

This stand alone strip introduces the reader to EOL, end of life. You may notice that there are no characters. That’s because I can’t draw. However, I use this deficiency to frame an argument that these ‘voices’ could belong to anyone or to everyone. That is, we could be the healthy visitor, here a son, or the dying person, in this case, the son’s Dad. You’ll also notice the empty balloon in the last panel. If this is not obvious, the empty balloon signifies that the person has died.  The dying father would not know that his “EOL” response follows the text-message shorthand “LOL” (laugh out loud) and this provides a link between the visualized ‘laugh’ and the realized ‘end’. The son, and hopefully the reader, deciphers the acronym correctly, and learns a final lesson from the father – that one should appreciate the company of others, especially family.

20 Responses to Hello

  1. Petey says:

    Larry! Love this! Leave it to you. xo

  2. CJ says:

    VERY cool and relevant- thanks for making this LIVE!

  3. Wilma Lange says:

    Humor takes a load off of reality. Keep the wheel spinning.

  4. Paul and Anne Hannak says:

    New to your site thanks to Sid and Barryl who are with us at the moment.
    Cheers, Paul H

  5. Karma says:

    Pure artistic genius.

    Loaded with crushing metaphors. I think the “character-less” idea has an enormous impact.

    • LCP1 says:

      I can imagine that each reader will hear a “different voice” for each “character” based on personal experiences. Would you agree?

  6. This post really makes me want to spend some time with my dad..

  7. Frank Saia says:

    Heya Cousin!

    I recently attended a Buddhist lecture on “Living & Dying.” The basic gist was that although our culture generally views talk of death taboo, due consideration to the topic will ultimately help remove anxiety about the dying experience, and can also lead one to live a richer, more fulfilling life.

    We educate ourselves about the birth process, so it would seem logical that we should learn about the death process as well. The whole affair is nicely put, in the Buddhist Evening Gatha (prayer):

    “Let me respectfully remind you
    Life and Death are of supreme importance.
    Time swiftly passes by
    and opportunity is lost.
    Each of us should strive to Awaken … Awaken.
    Take heed
    …Do not squander your Life”

    Thank You for your efforts at helping others to broach this important topic!

    • LCP1 says:

      Thanks Frank. I am hopeful that this blog will help others approach this topic. I spent many hours gathering feedback from many folks on this idea including young, (relatively) old, men, women, family, strangers, and also hospice providers. Although there were some that were uneasy with the entire project, most provided an overwhelming positive response to the idea that a) this topic needed more exposure, and b) humor was not off limits but could potentially be very helpful in breaking the ice. I’ll be honoring hospice and palliative care providers in upcoming weeks and months in the new strips. Stay tuned!

    • Petey says:

      If this were Facebook, I’d click on “like.”

  8. Jane Trenaman says:

    Larry – I think this is great! It is a strange thing that we do not talk about our lives and their gradual passing – fear is a great inhibitor. I remember so clearly the conversations I had with my mother as she was dying of cancer, and especially the final one – they have stayed with me and helped me. Just by talking with her about how she was feeling and what her life (and imminent death) meant, I know that she lived a life that she was happy with and was content to let go of without regret. I have not been left wondering about how she saw herself, her family or what she hoped for all of us because of those conversations. It has allowed me to live a better life and deal with the difficult times by emulating her behaviours – many great lessons were taught in a very few conversations. Of course there were lots of tears and hugs to go along with the words, but those things are also good for us! 🙂
    My wish for this site is that it brings a willingness to hold the conversation.
    Thank you for providing the forum.
    LOL (my version means “lots of love”)

    • LCP1 says:

      Thank you Jane. Your experiences and insight are extremely valuable. I hope you stay engaged and join in the healthy discussion as this blog evolves.

  9. Zack Becker says:

    I love the dad’s final word balloon, just open at the top and empty/emptying into the open space.

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